• Having important phone numbers nearby for you and your children.
Numbers to have
are the police, hotlines, friends and the local
• Friends or neighbors you could tell about the
abuse. Ask them to call
the police if they hear angry violent noises. If you have children, teach
them how to
dial 911. Make up a code word that you can use when
you need help.
• Know how to get out of your house safely.
Practice ways to get out.
• Know what the safer places in your home are, where there are exits and
If you feel abuse is going to happen try to get your abuser to one of these safer places.
• Any weapons in the
house, think about ways you can get them out of the house.
• Even if you do not plan to leave, think of where you
could go. Think of how you might leave. Try doing things that get you out of the house- taking out the trash,
the pet or going to the store. Put together a bag of things
to use everyday. Hide it or give it to a friend, where it
is easy for you
• Consider a Safety Deposit Box for your important documents.
IF YOU CONSIDER LEAVING YOUR ABUSER, THINK
places you could go if you leave your home.
• People who might help you if you left. Think about people who will
keep a bag for you. Think about people who might lend you money.
Make plans for your pets.
• Keeping change
for phone calls or getting a cell phone.
• Opening a bank account or getting a credit card in your name.
How you might leave. Try doing
things that get you out of the house, taking out the trash,
walking the family pet,
or going to the store. Practice how you would
• How you could take your children with you safely.
There are times
when taking your children with you may put all of your lives in danger. You need to protect yourself
to be able to protect your children.
• Putting together a bag of things you use everyday. Hide it where it
is easy for you to get.
• Change all your computer and internet Passwords
TO TAKE, IF POSSIBLE
• Keys to car, house, work
• Important papers for you and your children
• Social Security Cards
• School and Medical records
• Bankbooks, credit cards
• Driver’s License
• Welfare identification
• Passports, green cards, work
• Mortgage payment book, unpaid bills
• Insurance papers
(TRO) or Final Restraining Order
(FRO), divorce papers, custody
• Pictures, jewelry, things that mean
a lot to you
• Items for your children (toys,
This information is provided as a public service to assist victims of domestic violence. This information
is not intended to substitute for legal advice. We recommend that victims of domestic violence seek legal representation.